302-478-7100 Wilmington & Hockessin, DE

Shirley G. Jackson

Shirley Jackson, age 95, of Wilmington, DE and Stow, MA passed away on Sunday, December 31st, 2017.

Shirley was the only child of Elsie (Schelhamer) and Harold L. Gilbert of Monona, Iowa. Her mother died when Shirley was a young child and years later her father married the mother of Shirley’s best friend. Shirley then gained a loved sister, Norma Bruns, whose mother, Wilma, became mother to both girls. Two years later Shirley’s sister, Carole, was born into the family with two doting older sisters.

Shirley grew up in the special small rural town of Monona, Iowa, graduated from Monona High School, obtained her teaching certificate from Iowa State Teachers College now known as the University of Northern Iowa, and later graduated from the University of Delaware. She taught in the Iowa towns of Quasqueton, Volga, and Postville. Later she taught in Chesterfield County schools in Virginia and, after her family moved to Delaware, taught kindergarten at Northeast/King Elementary and Harlan Elementary.

Shirley met her beloved husband, Paul, when during WWII she traveled to Philadelphia to stay with her pregnant sister Norma while her husband was out on maneuvers. His ship returned, he had a shipmate he wanted Shirley to meet, the rest is history. Married for 65 years, Shirley and Paul had three children, summered in the cottage which Paul’s grandfather had built in MA, and for years joined long time friends in Florida during the winter months, along with taking trips to Hawaii and other areas of the US. Shirley lived an active, full life, full of love of her family, enjoying seeing her family grow. She felt most fortunate having such wonderful neighbors as Rae and Morris Freschman and Pat and Charlie Armbruster whose children were like family.

She was predeceased by her husband, Paul K. Jackson, her parents, Elsie and Harold Gilbert, her father’s second wife, Wilma, along with her sister Norma Grahn ( and Al), and numerous of her fondly loved cousins she grew up with in Iowa.

Shirley leaves behind her children, Kay Luedeke (John) of Chadds Ford, PA, Susan Fioravanti (Bob) of Wilmington, and Paul K. Jackson, Jr. of Pittsfield, ME. She was a loving grandmother to her grandchildren – E. Bates Carter, III, Bryant Carter (Amy), Christopher Woodruff (Kristine), Jennifer Gannon (Charles), Paul K. Jackson, III, (Carisa), Christopher Jackson, and gladly welcomed Karen and Roberto Fioravanti into the family. She was fortunate to see their generation grow up and become parents to her thirteen great-grandchildren – Keven, Ryan, and Brenden Woodruff; Evelyn and Natalie Gannon; Jayden and Kendra Jackson, Elijah Garnett-Schnee; Alex, Abby, and Emma Lynn Jackson; Hudson and Kinsley Carter.

In addition, Shirley is survived by her sister, Carole (Jim), of Monona, IA and their children, Gayle Mielke (Bruce), Lisa Woodman (Jeff), Kurt Gerdes (Darla), and Ann Jacobs (Brad) and their families. She is also survived by her husband Paul’s nieces and nephews -Robert E. Frew, Jr., Suzanne Coleman, Mary Ellen Farley, and Dorothy Stratton and their families.

Shirley was cherished and will be missed in this life.

If donations are made please consider one close to your heart, or the family suggests Heartland Hospice, 5661 Ocheltree Ln, Wilmington, DE 19808 or the The Kutz Home, 704 River Rd., Wilmington, DE 19809 who’s care for mom the family greatly appreciated.

Funeral Services

Funeral services will be held at Chandler Funeral Home, 2506 Concord Pike, on Tuesday, January 9th, at 11 AM with visitation beginning at 10 AM. Burial will follow at Lower Brandywine Cemetery.


    Elaine Hodgson writes,
    What a wonderful lady! Shirley was a wonderful teacher and friend and a godsend to me during my first year of teaching kindergarten at Northeast Elementary (now Martin Luther King) in the city of Wilmington in 1967-1968. That was the year of the riots in the country and in Wilmington and school closed for 2 or 3 weeks. She accompanied me on my first home visits in the housing project and gave me ideas for the classroom and the very large classes (30-35) we had before Title 1 kicked in. She was always so positive and caring. When I married Joe she gave me a lovely shower at her home. Kay, I ran into you and your mom not too long ago and wish I had followed up on a visit. I hope your mom knew how much I cared for and admired her. I am so sorry for your loss.
    01/04/2018 10:43 am
    Holly Conaway-Seramone writes,
    Mrs. Jackson was the sweetest lady and my mom (Sandy) & I always enjoyed our Christmas visits with her and Mr. Jackson. Kay was my 3rd grade teacher & her and my mom went to high school together. I share a lot of Christmas memories with the Jackson/Luedeke family. May she now rest in peace and walk the paths in heaven with Mr. Jackson.
    01/04/2018 10:54 am
    Barbara Urquhart writes,
    My sincere condolences to the Jackson family. May your hearts be filled with wonderful memories of times spent together with Shirley and have faith in God’s promise of a new world where sickness and death will be no more. (Revelation 21:3,4)
    01/05/2018 09:28 am
    Tom Hoffmann writes,
    Having known both Shirley and Paul through our common work association, I share your loss at this time. I will always remember Paul’s higinks he often played on Shirley. Truly, a wonderful wife & mother.
    01/07/2018 05:49 am

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