Barbara Hayes

After a beautiful earthly journey, Barbara Louise Jastrow Hayes passed away peacefully on Sunday November 27, 2022. She is survived by her devoted children, Shaun Hayes, Evan and Heidi Hayes, Siobhan and John Glover, Erin Hayes, Corey Hayes, and Calum Hayes, her 7 grandchildren, along with her siblings, Kathy Jastrow Davis, John and Christine Jastrow, Barry and Lisa Gould, as well as numerous cousins, nieces, and nephews. Barbara, affectionately known as Barbi, was a beloved member of her community. She grew up in Boonton, NJ, then moved her family to Milford, Delaware where she opened A Second Cup, the first coffee shop and bakery of its kind in the area, and later on to open If Heaven Had a Flavor in Clayton, Delaware. She was an accomplished special education advocate, paralegal, artist and baker extraordinaire. Barbi held a Master’s degree in Psychology and a Bachelor’s degree in Criminal Justice. Her life was committed to helping others whether in the classroom, the courts, or the kitchen. She will be sorely missed.

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Funeral Services

A memorial is planned for Sunday, January 15, 2022 at the Hartly Fire Hall in Hartly, Delaware. Memorial will start at 2pm and the service will begin promptly at 3pm. Flowers, donations and condolences in Barbi’s memory can be sent to: 961 Lockwood Chapel Road, Hartly, DE 19953.

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Fiona Rodgers lit a candle and writes,

Oh Barbi loved to have met you both in Delaware when we visited and in Dundee when you visited with Cathy ❤

12/02/2022 06:41 pm

Debra lit a candle and writes,

Deepest sympathies to the family of Barbara. R.I.P.

12/02/2022 07:13 pm

Debbie Kaighn lit a candle and writes,

Be bold, be brave, be strong, be happy, be silly, be, original... You were all that and more. You will be missed, but most of all you were loved💕

12/02/2022 07:28 pm

Lorinzo Tee Dixon lit a candle and writes,

Sleep in peace my friend 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 it was my pleasure in getting to meet you, love you and the family 😚😚

12/02/2022 08:01 pm

Diane Weissmuller lit a candle and writes,

One of my oldest and dearest friends..my heart hurts for your children and grandchildren. You were truly an amazing person . Such a loving strong presence in the lives of all that know and love you. Sending love, light and hugs to your family... RIP Barbi.💙 Until we meet again . 😇🙏

12/02/2022 09:28 pm

Phyllis "Bobbie" Gibson lit a candle and writes,

To the loving family of Barbi, I know this is a terrible loss. I only knew her as a child, but I am a distant cousin because my mother's father was the son of Bella Youngelson and my mother was Bill Youngelson's cousin. As children, Marlene Youngelson Jastrow was a close friend of mine. Then as an adult, we had a drug store in Boonton and I would go visit Marlene and see you children running around that big house. Marlene would bring Barbi and Kathy to the drugstore to visit. I wasn't close to Marlene's sister, Evelyn, until I moved to Florida where we became best friends. I love Kathy and Loren Youngelson Kraut very much. They are shining examples of the closeness shared in your family. Please know that I am thinking of you and my love and prayers go out to all of you.

12/02/2022 09:57 pm

Christa Ervin writes,

I am so loss for words and it’s hard to believe that Ms. Barbara Hayes has gone on to another life. Ms. Hayes will truely be missed may she R.I.P gone but never for gotten.

12/03/2022 01:25 am

Cat Storzum writes,

I remember sitting in the backyard at the Labor Day BBQ talking about your wonderful creations. Your love for your kids. My thoughts and prayers go out to your family, especially my buddy Shaun, to your friends and to those who'll miss your tasty goodies. Cat Storzum

12/03/2022 03:37 am

Karen Byrne writes,

Fond memories of Barbi 🤍 you welcomed all of us from Dundee, Scotland when we visited and was lovely to meet you a couple of times when you visited, what an amazing lady 🤍

12/03/2022 04:27 am

Quanda lit a candle and writes,

May your happy memories give you peace and comfort during this challenging time. Please accept my sincere condolences. I will cherish the times that I got to spend with ms.Barbi as a child growing up with her girls. Definitely going miss you 😘

12/03/2022 06:02 am

LaToya Horsey lit a candle and writes,

Siobhan and Erin you guys were like sisters growing up. We spent so much time between our houses and your mom was one of the sweetest people I know. Always welcoming all of us into her home for last minute sleepovers and pool parties. I remember walking to her coffee shop in Milford and getting muffins on our ventures around town, they were the best! I am truly sorry for your loss and my condolences to you and the family. Another sweet soul gone too soon, my thoughts and prayers are with you all.

12/03/2022 06:41 am

Theresa Sheahan writes,

Kathy my Deepest sympathy to you, your family and loved ones.

12/03/2022 09:50 am

Diane Stamelos lit a candle and writes,

So sorry for your loss. I met Barb in 7th grade. Always so nice and friendly. Such a kind person. RIP Barbie.

12/03/2022 06:21 pm

Suzanne Madanat lit a candle

12/03/2022 07:48 pm

Chanel Glover lit a candle and writes,

Thank you Barbi, for all your love.

12/04/2022 07:16 am

Anthony Gruerio Jr writes,

I had the pleasure of knowing her through the coffee shop in Clayton. She was always willing to talk about food, music and what constituted the correct amount of cream cheese on a bagel :) I'm fortunate to have crossed paths.

12/04/2022 07:07 pm

Carl and Annette Schwatka lit a candle and writes,

Words can not describe the friendship, warmth and caring that Barbie gave to her customers when you entered the coffee shop you were treated as family …. We will always remember her warm smile and will miss her friendship……Our prayers are with the family especially her children and grandchildren who meant the world to her…..I will miss her warm smile and friendship very much love to you all

12/05/2022 09:29 am

Mary Ann Hilt writes,

Barbi, I heard so many positive things about you. Such an extradinnary woman to have left this life so soon! May you rest in peace

12/05/2022 12:58 pm

Mary Parker lit a candle and writes,

I’d been thinking about you and praying for you since you closed. Now I pray comfort for your family. Rest In peace, Ms. Barbara. Still miss you.

12/05/2022 04:07 pm

Nancy Hance Sierchio writes,

I have so many memories from our childhood. Halloween wedding party where we all got a silver dollar prize, baby bunnies, parties,etc. All grown up with kids and ours became friends. You helped me navigate the special needs rats nest and most importantly you were a true friend. You were always the same, compassionate, gentle, strong ans just downright AMAZING. You will be missed by many. My sincere condolences to your family. Rest easy Barbie til we meet again.

12/07/2022 06:23 pm

Meredith Douglas writes,

Barbara was beautiful inside and out. May she Rest In Peace. My deepest condolences to her family and friends.

12/09/2022 10:21 am

Christina and Tasha Lief lit a candle and writes,

We are sending Barbi's family our heartfelt condolences. Barbi was instrumental in my daughter getting services in the public school system. She helped us and so many others. She had a heart of gold and will remain in our hearts forever. Rest in peace. We love you.

12/11/2022 06:48 pm

Bill Anello lit a candle and writes,

Barbi, Rest easy my friend. I cant thank you enough for all of your help and everything you did. You certainly left a mark. Bill

01/03/2023 04:19 pm

Maureen Ahearn lit a candle and writes,

Don’t think of me as gone away, my journey’s just begun like the hold so many facets this earth is only one. Just think of me as resting from the sorrows and the tears in a place of warmth and comfort where there are no days and years. Think how I must be wishing that we could know today how nothing, but our sadness can really pass away. And think of me as living in the hearts of those I’ve touched for nothing loved is ever lost and I was loved so much. Thank you for being part of my journey. You are forever in my heart.

01/04/2023 10:08 am

Debra writes,

My family and I loved going into If Heaven Had A Flavor whenever we were in Smyrna. Miss Barbi always had a smile to offer and, because we'd get there later in the day, would almost be sold out of her goods [she was a great baker!]. My daughter loved getting a hot chai latte from Miss Barbi. It was her favorite. My prayers are with her family.

01/09/2023 02:47 pm

Suzanne Melson lit a candle and writes,

My condolences to Barbara’s family she was the kindest person and a wonderful baker. I loved talking with her when I would stop in her store in Clayton. May she rest in peace 🙏

01/09/2023 03:11 pm

Angie Buntin lit a candle and writes,

I only knew her through the bakery, but she made my daughter smile so brightly with her devil horns on a devil's food cake for her 18th birthday during COVID. She was always so incredibly sweet every time we went in.

01/09/2023 05:18 pm

Naomi Black writes,

I met Barbi while working at the Milford Senior center. She became like a mother to me while we worked together. She taught a lot of kitchen tricks I now use at home. Her and her daughter catered my wedding and made me feel so special. I will miss her soooooo much.

01/09/2023 05:22 pm

Dale GIBNEY lit a candle and writes,

Rest In Peace

01/09/2023 06:22 pm

Anita lit a candle and writes,

So sorry to hear of the passing of this beautiful spirit! She and her son were always so pleasant and welcoming! They were also very accommodating. For a last minute function at my place of work, they made over 100 mini pies for the employees without any hesitation! These special memories of this special lady will always be in my heart!

01/09/2023 07:00 pm

Anthony Seward lit a candle and writes,

Ms Barbie, I will always remember you for your amazing treats. My favorite was and always will be the vanilla spiced chai you would make at If Heaven Had a Flavor. From the very first day I met you, you had a beautiful heart/soul, you were very welcoming with open arms and we held long lasting conversations. Thank you for being so loving. Thank you for the birthday cakes for my kids. We will always remember you

01/09/2023 08:22 pm

Kathy Kennedy-Ratajack lit a candle and writes,

So sorry to hear this. I met Barbi at the coffee shop in Clayton. She always had a warm smile. Such a sweet soul. I will definately miss her.

01/09/2023 09:26 pm

Loren Kraut writes,

Keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers. I'll always remember Barbi with kindness and love, as she was a gentle soul. Much love to all your family.

01/14/2023 07:34 pm

Linda Cowgill writes,

Dave and I had the privilege of meeting you and members of your family at If Heaven had a Flavor! We always enjoyed each visit...whether lunch or a sweet treat. Barbie made us feel welcome, as if part of the family! It was a pleasure getting to know you! RIP Barbie. Condolences to your family! You are missed!

01/15/2023 02:01 pm

Wayne Gladhill lit a candle and writes,

I was deeply sad to learn Barbara had passed away. I loved our friendly conversations every time I walked in the coffee shop in Clayton. She was very well versed in so many subject areas and her wisdom was amazing. Barbara’s coffee and gluten free pastry’s were amazing along the special Birthday cakes she made along with Erin’s help. Every time I go past the shop I think about her. Condolences and prayers to the family and especially to Erin and Corey who worked at the shop at times. I enjoyed all their kindness and friendliness that they definitely got from their Mom.

01/18/2023 06:52 am

Bonnie Lefkowitz lobb writes,

I only just found out about barbi. So saddened by this. May god bless her family. Deepest sympathies to all.

05/16/2023 08:50 am

Diane (Dee) Evans writes,

Many fond memories of our kids getting together in Boonton, especially going to a playground and the kids putting down the van windows and yelling in the tunnel! Had no idea you were sick so this was a shock to hear. I bet you and Dot are up there cooking up a storm! RIP my friend.

01/09/2024 11:32 am

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